Aphrodite’s Sex Glossary

Putting together a small sexual dictonary. More to come as I get inspired.


Aphrodisiacs- all kinds of magic substances, foods, activities, scents and herbs thought to enhance sexual desire and influence erotic life of lovers. Named after Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of sexual love and sensuality, an aphrodisiac is anything that turns you on. The most powerful of aphrodisiacs are those influencing our physiological and psychological state.

Anal Beads: a type of sex toy consisting of several small balls attached together by a piece of nylon cord or other type of strong rope-like material, designed for anal play. Anal beads are commonly made of silicone, plastic, rubber, glass or metal and end with a ring or similar handle designed for pulling. The purpose of this ring is to prevent the sex toy from becoming fully lodged in the rectum, as well as to facilitate its removal. There are vibrating anal beads designed for extra stimulation!

Anal Bleaching: anal bleaching, or lightening, is the practice of bleaching the pigmentation of the skin of medium- to light-skinned people around the anus. Some white people have some degree of darker pigmentation of the skin immediately around the anus, which can be mistaken for poor personal hygiene. Bleaching is used mostly for cosmetic purposes to make the skin of the anal opening more uniform with the surrounding area. Originally, anal and vaginal lightening was discovered by adult film stars, erotic dancers, models, and others who were “exposed” and wanted to beautify their most intimate body areas.

Anal sex: Anal sex most often refers to the sex act involving insertion of the penis into the anus of a sex partner. The term anal sex can also sometimes include other sexual acts involving the anus, including pegging, anal–oral sex, fingering, and object insertion. Though anal sex is pleasurable for many people, and some may reach orgasm through stimulation of the prostate in men, and clitoral and G-Spot leg stimulation in women, others find it painful, in some cases extremely so. The biggest factor in finding pleasure in this act is that you are relaxed, the use of proper lubricant and that both people are engaging in the act because they want to, not because they want to accommodate a partner.

Anilinngus: the erotic stimulation of a sexual partner’s anus with one’s tongue, oral anal sex. From anus + lingus (‘to lick’ from Latin). Sometimes referred to as “rimming”.


BDSM: Is a psychodrama through which participants explore “unacceptable” or hurtful emotions in a safe context. On a physical level, it often involves restraint and intentional infliction of physical pain and other intense sensations. It is a term for a wide range of distinct subcultures, psychological and physiological facets and sexual activities: bondage and discipline (B&D, B/D, or BD), dominance and submission (D&s, D/s, or Ds), and sadism and masochism (S&M, S/M, or SM).

Blindfolds: blindfold sex play is practiced by many lovers in and outside of the BDSM community. The idea of blindfolding during sex is that losing the sense of sight other senses of the wearer and intensifies the excitement. As the wearer can’t see what to expect, it allows focusing on sounds, smells, tastes, sensations and physical contact.

Breath Play: also called asphyxiophilia, autoerotic asphyxia, hypoxyphilia, or breath control play. This is a sexual practice of intentionally restricting your partner’s breathing during sex to intensify sexual arousal and/or sexual pleasure. A person engaging in the activity is sometimes called a “gasper”. NOTE that this practice is dangerous even if performed with care, and has resulted in a significant number of accidental deaths!!

Ben Wah Balls: or Ben Wah Balls are small balls, usually small weighted and connected by a string. Ben Wa Balls are inserted into vagina or anus for extra sensation and sexual stimulation; also used to exercise vaginal muscles. They come in many types, designs, materials (glass, metal, silicone-coated balls) and names: Duotone Balls, Pleasure Balls, Vibro Balls, Smart Balls, Orgasm Balls, Love Balls, Kegel Balls. (I just got the LELO- Luna beads a toy review coming soon.)


Celibacy:  Celibacy is the English word that derives from the Latin “caeleb”, meaning “unmarried.” Celibacy is a person’s choice/lifestyle of remaining unmarried all life. This word is also used to describe a state of life where one chooses to avoid all sexual activities and relations. Among the celibacy motivations there are religious reasons, asexuality, dislike of all forms of sexual activities (antisexualism), poor health, etc.
Cherry: a slang word which usually refers to an unbroken hymen and woman’s virginity. The word originated from the song “Sweet Cherry Pie” by the old band Warrant. “Popping cherry” means to take a girl’s virginity, to break a girl’s hymen.

Cock ring: a sex toy designed to put on a man’s penis during sex to intensify the sensations and help prolong the sexual experience by slowing down the flow of blood out of the penis. Cock rings can be used for masturbation and partner sex. Basically, there are adjustable cock rings and non-adjustable cock rings, non-vibrating cock rings and vibrating cock rings. These sex toys can be made of a variety of different materials such as leather cock rings, rubber, silicone, metal cock rings. Some cock rings can be worn around the penis; some cock rings are designed for the scrotum alone; and some can be worn for penis and scrotum. There are vibrating cock rings which deliver a great range of vibrations for extra stimulation! There are cock rings with a clitoral stimulator attached or/and anal teaser, designed to stimulate the woman’s anus and the clitoris during sex.

Cock and ball harness: an adult device consisting of two adjustable collars, usually made of leather, and joined by a third strip of leather; one collar is placed tightly around the base of both the penis and scrotum and the other around the corona of the penis. Cock and balls harness devices provide a firm grip of a man’s package and look naughty and sexy!

Corona: the rim surrounding the back part of the head, or the glands, of the penis

Cowper's glands: named after the English surgeon and anatomist William Cowper, Cowper’s glands are small (about the size of a pea) glands located beneath the prostate gland that produce pre-cum (pre-ejaculate) in men during sexual arousal. Cowper’s glands are analogous to the women’s Bartholin’s glands which produce vaginal lubrication.

Cross dressing:  the act of wearing clothing, make-up, hair styles, etc commonly associated with the other gender. Cross-dressing is often associated with homosexual behavior and transgender behavior. However, cross-dressing does not necessarily indicate transgender identity. In fact, there are many different kinds of cross-dressing, and many different reasons why some people engage in cross-dressing behavior.

Cunnilingus: is oral stimulation of a woman’s most intimate places, the clitoris and vulva. Please see She Comes First to learn how to perform properly.

Cybersex:  also known as internet sex, net sex or “cybering” is a virtual sex which is commonly performed in Internet chat rooms and via instant messaging systems, using webcams, voice chat systems, online games, etc.


Double Penetration:  or double fucking, or DP, is commonly used to describe a simultaneous penetration of a woman’s pussy and anus by two men, with one penis in her anus, and the other in her pussy. Also, DP can be done with one man and a sex toy. Simultaneous penetration of the anus by two penises (or sex toys and other objects) is called ‘double anal’ or ‘double stuffing’. Double vaginal or double stuffing is simultaneous penetration of the pussy by two penises (or other penis-shaped objects and sex toys).

Dental Dam: dental dams (or ‘oral dams’) are used during oral sex to reduce the skin contact and the transmission of intimate fluids to protect partners from sexually transmitted diseases and bacteria. They are called “dental” dams because they were originally designed for use in dental procedures as a protective measure for dentists working on a patient’s teeth. Dental dams are thin pieces of latex placed over the vulva or anus. They may come in a variety of flavors and colors, and can be used with a water-based lubricant for more pleasure. A few tips for you: 1) Don’t share dams and never reuse a dental dam; 2) Use only one side of the dam; 3) Always use a new dam if switching between oral-vaginal and oral-anal sex; 4) Don’t use oil-based lubes with dams, oil can weaken the latex.


Ecouteurism: Listening to others having sex without their consent.

Emetophilia: A fetish where one is aroused by vomit or spew. People with this fetish are called emetophiles.

Endytophilia: Sexual arousal only from people who are clothed.

Enema: Insertion of fluids into the anal passage via a tube.

Eproctophilia: A fart fetish, someone turned on by farting is called an eproctophile.

Eros: Sexual intimacy, sexual love, sexual drive or libido.

Erogenous Zones: erogenous zones are highly sensitive areas of the body. Although everyone has different level of sensitivity as well as different erogenous zones, stimulation of erogenous zones usually leads to sexual arousal and intense erotic sensations. Erogenous zones may be genital (the g-spot, the clitoris, man’s testicles) and non-genital (the breasts, the buttocks; inner side of thighs, the back side of knees; the area around the lower spine, just above the buttocks).

Erotographomania: an obsession with erotic writing, the obsessive desire to write love letters and/or poems, usually in connection with sexual arousal.

Erotomania: Love of a stranger or person not interested in them.

Erotophilia: Persons very open and positive about sex.

Erotophobia: Feeling of fear and guilt associated with sex.

Erythrophilia: Sexual arousal from blushing, or anything red.

Exhibitionism: The desire to expose one's naked body for others to see.