BDSM

Thou art to me a delicious torment. 

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

BDSM: The historical origins of BDSM are obscure. During the ninth century BC, ritual flagellations were performed in Artemis Orthia, one of the most important religious areas of ancient Sparta, where the Cult of Orthia, a preolympic religion, was practiced. (You know I love when I can tie my themes back to Greek Mythology.)


Here ritual flagellation called diamastigosis took place on a regular basis. One of the oldest graphical proofs of sadomasochistic activities is found in an Etruscan burial site in Tarquinia. Inside the Tomba della Fustigazione (Flogging grave), in the latter sixth century B.C., two men are portrayed flagellating a woman with a cane and a hand during an erotic situation.

Another reference related to flagellation is to be found in the sixth book of the Satires of the ancient Roman Poet Juvenal (1st–2nd century A.D.), further reference can be found in Petronius's Satyricon where a delinquent is whipped for sexual arousal. Anecdotal narratives related to humans who have had themselves voluntary bound, flagellated or whipped as a substitute for sex or as part of foreplay reach back to the third and fourth century.

BDSM: Is a psychodrama through which participants explore “unacceptable” or hurtful emotions in a safe context. On a physical level, it often involves restraint and intentional infliction of physical pain and other intense sensations. It is a term for a wide range of distinct subcultures, psychological and physiological facets and sexual activities: bondage and discipline (B&D, B/D, or BD), dominance and submission (D&s, D/s, or Ds), and sadism and masochism (S&M, S/M, or SM).

These activities and relationships within BDSM practice are characterized by the fact that the participants usually take unequal roles. Typically, participants who are active (applying the activity or exercising control over others) are known as Tops or Dominants. Those who are the recipients of the activities, or who are controlled by their partners, are typically known as Bottoms or Submissives.

In The New Bottoming Book, Eastman tells us that “bottoming gives us a chance to explore feelings, roles, and interactions that may not be a good fit for us in the real world. So when you bottom, you may want to experience emotions like…anger, helplessness, martyrdom…” (Eastman 21)


BD is a type of sexual relationship consisting of lightly sadomasochistic scenarios in which a submissive partner is physically restrained and then disciplined, or punished physically or psychologically by a dominant partner.

The term “bondage” describes the sexual behavior which involves physical restraint. Participants may use restraining devices and bondage toys such as ropes, cords, chains, collars, handcuffs, scarves, ties, suspension kits, cages, etc.

Discipline is almost always symbolic and much lighter than in sadomasochism. Usually, it contains little physical pain or discomfort but relies heavily on verbal abuse, threats, humiliation, and “punishment” to enforce obedience. Where as SM the masochist enjoys being bound, spanked or suffering within the consensual scenario.

SM Sadism is pleasure in the infliction of pain or humiliation upon another person. The sadist enjoys delivering pain to someone/something and gains sexual gratification from doing so, while masochism is pleasure in receiving the pain.

A masochist often believes they deserve the pain or gain not only a sexual release from receiving the pain but has the ability to remove their focus from an emotional pain to a physical pain.

Often sexual gratification depends on suffering, physical pain, and humiliation. The gratification gained from pain, deprivation, degradation can be inflicted or imposed on oneself, either as a result of one's own actions or the actions of others.
 
Safety Within The BDSM World:

  • Participants of BDSM understand practical safety aspects; for instance they recognize which parts of the human body have a risk of damage to nerves and blood vessels by contusion or have a high risk of scar development.
  • The Dom- should have anatomical knowledge which can make the difference between a satisfying session for the bottom, and a highly unpleasant experience that may result in severe physical harm.
  • To ensure consensus related to BDSM activity, pre-play negotiations are commonplace, especially among partners who do not know each other very well. These negotiations concern the interests and fantasies of each partner and establish a framework.
  • Additionally, safe-words are often arranged to provide for an immediate stop of any activity if any participant should so desire. It is extremely important to follow his or her reactions empathetically and continue or stop accordingly.
(This kind of pain/pleasure should be thoroughly thought out and one should have a complete understanding to the possible ramifications before entering in to this world.)


Reading I recomend: 
(All four books are by: Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy)
  1. The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
  2. The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
  3. The New Bottoming Book
  4. The New Topping Book 

5 comments:

ProfessorC said...

In recent years, I've realized that most people (men and women included) have BDSM thoughts and fantasies. Few rarely explore them in a strict "BDSM" sense, but only skirt the edges with light spanking, illusions of restraint and mild verbal abuse. It's a real treat to have a partner that wants to really explore their boundaries and enjoy them together.

Big Geek said...

Very nice overview of a very very large idea.

slowburn said...

A informative piece. Are you into BDSM?

AnnaBelle said...

I am with slowburn... this piece is very informative and interesting... and definitely very intriguing...

I can't really say most of this is anything I have experimented with, but I can say, I'm not a slow and gentle kinda person... if you get my drift...

Very good job on your research...I'm super impressed with the depth of this piece of work.

Calliope said...

While I was forming the thoughts for this post I was discussing the overall concepts with a fellow blogger. I became slightly frustrated in trying to define the terms and getting stuck on literal verses perceived.

Honestly a lot of how this world is seen, how they would define each term may be more based in the individuals engaging in that behavior at any given moment. What one person may see as humiliation another may define as obedience or playful.

This topic over all is quite expansive and trying to scale it down into something a little more understandable was not an easy task. I hope I did the terms and explanations justice.