Dating Facts

Since I never dated much prior to marring I am extremely rusty. Well honestly I have no idea what I am doing. I am a firm believer in being knowledgeable and prepared can put you ahead of the game, so I compiled a few dating facts from various sources. Maybe my dating life will get a little better, or at least I can hope.

1.The third week in September is National Singles Week in the U.S. (Over 50% of all singles in America have not had a date in more than two years.)

2.According to the U.S. census, there are 95.9 million unmarried people in the U.S. of which 47% are men and 53% are women.

3.Ninety-two percent of single parents would rather date other single parents.

4.Researchers at the University of Chicago found that people were twice as likely to find a date through friends and family as through the bar scene.

5.Studies show that schools, colleges, coffee shops, and malls are all excellent places to flirt because people are more open to meeting others in these places. Poor locations are restaurants and movie theaters.

6.If a man can’t decide what to wear on a date, he might want to wear blue. Studies show that women are attracted to men in blue. (I am partial to stripes *wink*)

7.If you want to create an instant link with a date, say his or her name at least twice in the conversation. This shows attentiveness and connectiveness.

8.Mirroring, or repeating someone’s body language, often impresses a date because it subtly conveys interest to the other person. (One should avoid copying every move.)

9.Studies show that remembering bits of information about a person and working them into conversations not only is highly flattering but also shows interest.

10.Choosing exciting places for a first date increases the chances of the other person falling for you. There is a definitive link between danger and physical/romantic attraction. (Italian food is one of the most popular restaurants for a first date.)

11.A woman can increase the likelihood of a man approaching her if she uncrosses her arms, makes subtle eye contact, and smiles.

12.Worst places to go on first date include fast-food restaurants, your kids’ birthday party or school play, your parents’ house, strip clubs, X-rated films or swingers parties, a party where your ex will be, church activities, or window shopping.

13.Studies show that men are put off by groups of loud women. If a woman wants to get a date, she should break away from a loud group to give a man a chance to approach her.

14.On average, daters will kiss on the second date. (If the date went well I would like a kiss at the end of the first date. I want to feel that invisible tug behind my belly button. No invisible tug=no second date.)

15.When a man first approaches a woman, she will base 55% of her initial impression of him on his appearance and body language, 38% on his style of speaking, and 7% on what he actually says.

16.If a woman is interested in her date, she will often smile at his jokes, play with her hair, fidget with an object such as a glass, blush when he pays her a compliment, pout or pucker her mouth, stumble over words, or lean in towards him.

17.Humans like mystery and “the chase,” so don't be too “available” to a date. Dating experts typically suggest not sleeping too early with a date because the longer the chase, the more likely love will blossom. (Twenty-nine percent of Americans have had sex on the first date.)

18.Dating specialists suggest that if a woman does not return a call after two messages, she is not interested. (Did not find a standard rule of thumb for a guy. Anyone want to leave a comment as to their rule of thumb?)

19.Five types of women that men tend to avoid are serial flirters, someone who talks about marriage too soon, clingy women, the party-girl, and a woman who talks too much or is drama queen.

20.Four common date blunders include showing up late, talking about yourself too much, revealing too much about your ex, and an obvious over-eagerness.

Information and facts are complied from various websites and research.


Big Geek said...

It sounds like you are all studied up on this test. When is the test? Is there a test scheduled?

Calliope said...

Not unless you want to send a streaming line of men my direction so I can "test" these theories. I have yet to find anyone interesting enough to hold my attention.

I need a guy that can "handle" me. So far no luck!

The Green-Eyed Brat said...

Dating Sucks!

I've been single most of my life and in my early 20's I actually enjoyed it. Even all the freak dates...I thought it was all amusing. Now in my early 30's it's a damn beating...even more since all my friends are dudes...who block any potential dates...

I've been in an on again off again relationship for 6 years but I decided to give him the boot. I'm dating now and sharing my experiences...I look forward to reading yours..maybe we can encourage each other!!! It's scary out there!!!

Best of luck to you!!!

Advizor54 said...

13.Studies show that men are put off by groups of loud women. If a woman wants to get a date, she should break away from a loud group to give a man a chance to approach her.

This is SOOOO TRUE. Nothing is more intimidating than a group of women to most men. To make contact you have to interrupt and then you are judged, not only by the woman, but by all of her friends who hate being interrupted, or are bummed you didn't pick them (male ego talking)

Break away a little bit, just to ease the tension. Help a guy out, you know? :-)