All This Sex Talk.....

Recently I have had more then a few people call in to question the "need" I have to talk about sex with whomever will listen. Because I speak about sex openly, the impression I have left people with is that I am only capable of talking about sex, which is completely ignorant! Those whom are judging me fail to see, because I am comfortable talking about sex and not ashamed, I am the one a lot of people come to with questions or to ask advice.

I have a ton of secrets floating around in my head that I have never divulged. I have heard about peoples fetishes and fantasies, about their fears and desires. I have even been asked about sex addiction verses being a nymphomaniac. I take their inquiries seriously and I genuinely want to help or at the very least steer them the right direction if I can't.

Perhaps the real question might be, "How did I ever become this person who talks about sex all the time?" Well I am going to put myself up under the microscope for you so you can see for yourself.

Feeling A Littly Mouthy Today!




This song just seems to be INCREDIBLY fitting after the last couple of days I have had. Or perhaps the song has a slight nostalgic feel since the first guy I ever kissed found me on facebook yesterday.

This was a popular jam back in the day when I was in college. That’s right folks with all my big sex talk that I was recently persecuted for( A post to explain will be coming.) I never even kissed a boy until I was 19 years old. OMG-

TOPIC AT HAND: Apparently it is ok and will always be ok for a guy to imply sexual innuendos, joke about sex, email long drawn out letters about all the things you want to do to her, text a woman flat out asking for a booty call, ect… but if a girl/woman actually behaves like she might want to have sex with said boy/man then suddenly she is not a lady.

A woman a “true” lady is not suppose to want sex? Not want intimacy? Not want that euphoric high that comes with cumming with someone. What a woman does not deserve the same pleasures a man does? And if she does she CANNOT under any circumstance discuss it with anyone because it is our SCARLET LETTER of shame that we actually like sex?

WHAT THE FUCK IS ALL I CAN SAY! I am sorry I turn you on but do you damn job and turn me on and let’s fuck because I am a big girl in charge of my own body and I don’t care if you JUDGE me at least I am having sex and enjoying it with whomever I choose.

Sorry for the overtly crass nature of this post since most of my posts/blog is not this crass. My sincere apologies.

NST-Thoughts


I have not written a NST for today but I have already at this early hour read two very good ones.

a girls gotta have options & Slowburn


I like the idea of choosing an NST theme/story for the month and then writing it out over the 3-4 weeks of Tuesdays for the month. It would definitely keep people on their toes waiting in anticipation for Tuesday to hurry up and get here. Besides anything that can make a Monday come and go is a good thing.

Just my thoughts. I am so glad Fruit Taster introduced us all to Naughty Story Tuesday *smiles* Happy Tuesday fellow bloggers.

September NST Part Two



The buttons hit the floor and my mind was telling me this was a really bad idea. It wasn't that I did not want to but more that his dismissive ways afterwards had grown tiresome.

As my mind began building a defense I could feel my knees begin to sway. "STOP!" I grabbed his head and pulled it towards my face and away from my breasts.

"I think the wine has gone to my head, excuse me for a minute." I stated all breathless. He looked at me with the chocolate brown eyes and I could see the need and desire dancing in them.

As I walked toward the bathroom I tried to pull the shirt closed over my exposed breasts. Closing the bathroom I looked at my reflection. Several minutes passed as I leaned against the porcelain pedestal sink. A soft knock echoed through the small bathroom.

"Are you ok? Can I come in?" His smooth voice entered the room as he pushed the door open before waiting to hear my response. He now had his shirt off and looking at his bare chest made me want to spread my hands across the broadness and rake my nails down the front.

Without warning he leaned in and aggressively took a kiss from me. My hands went up and push against his chest. "I cannot do this. It is only when it is convenient to you and that does not work for me."

"I missed you." He said. "Just let me touch you." His hands reached for the button of my dress pants. I began to struggle against him to twist away from him.

"But it never ends with just a little touching." I felt my resolve caving as he nuzzled into my neck with kisses as he simultaneously undid my dress pants and had them and my panties down at my knees in one swift motion.

"Just a little bit." as his lips met mine again. Then his fingers were moving inside me. "You know you want this!" He pulled away. His withdraw took the fullness of his fingers. I opened my eyes and looked at him confused and longingly for it to not be over quite yet.

Almost devastated that could be it, he wheeled me around and bent me over the sink. He spread my legs and then I felt his tongue. I inhaled deeply as the sink bit at my stomach.

He entered me swiftly and powerfully, the motion moved us both forward. I could see the reflection of us in the mirror poised above the sink so I reached up and turn the light off.

“Don’t you want that on?” He reached over to turn it back on. Then his hands went back to holding my hips and moving in and out.

“NO!” It came out more in a moan than a plea to stop. I reached up turning the switch off. I left my hand over it, for I could not bare for him to see me in such a compromising position.

With every move of his engorged cock, I felt the liquid heat building. I bit down hard on my own wrist to keep from crying out as I felt his orgasm explode in me and my walls tighten around him. We both just collapsed forward, bent over the tiny pedestal sink while we caught our breath.

Aphrodisiacs

Since I have been asked more than once, “What are some of the most popular aphrodisiacs?" and  "What food should a person eat to make their "fluids" taste sweeter?”

I decided to compile a list. Hope you enjoy all the tastiness in store for you.


Aphrodisiacs- all kinds of magic substances, foods, activities, scents and herbs thought to enhance sexual desire and influence erotic life of lovers. Named after Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of sexual love and sensuality, an aphrodisiac is anything that turns you on. The most powerful of aphrodisiacs are those influencing our physiological and psychological state.

Fruits and Vegetables
Strawberries-sweet fluids
Apple
Acai Berry
Apricot
Avocado
Cantaloupe-sweet fluids
Cherry
Cranberry
Raspberry
Watermelon
Chile Pepper
Tomato
Peach- sweet fluids
Pineapple-sweet fluids
Mango-sweet fluids
Grapes
Celery
Pomegranate
Pumpkin

Herbs and Spices
Cinnamon
Rosemary
Tarragon
Vanilla Saffron
Garlic
Nutmeg
Drinks
Coconut Water
Red Wine
Absinthe
Coffee
Pepper
Out of the Ocean
Sea Cucumber
Lobster
Shrimp
Shark
Clams
Conch
Blowfish
Seaweed
Tuna
Sea Urchin

Others
Mushrooms
Wedding cake
Lavender
Turkey
Nuts
Oats
Ginseng

Scents
Basil- is known as an aphrodisiac with sweet energizing aroma.
Jasmine- is a heady floral scent and aphrodisiac for both sexes.
Lavender- scent is a turn-on for men. It is powerful in balancing emotions, calming, charming.
Neroli- is a virtually powerful aphrodisiac with intoxicating floral scent. An aphrodisiac for seduction and flirting.
Ylang Ylang- is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs. Increases libido and attraction between lovers. Gives energy and eroticism.

Your Five Variable Love Profile

I don't know that this is completely accurate but it was something interesting to do on a Friday night.


Propensity for Monogamy:

Your propensity for monogamy is high.
You find it easy to be devoted and loyal to one person.
And in return, you expect the same from who you love.
Any sign of straying, and you'll end things.

Experience Level:

Your experience level is high.
You've loved, lost, and loved again.
You have had a wide range of love experiences.
And when the real thing comes along, you know it!

Dominance:

Your dominance is medium.
You tend to be the one with more power.
You aren't a total control freak in relationships..
But of course you don't mind getting you way!

Cynicism:

Your cynicism is medium.
You'd like to believe in true and everlasting love...
But you've definitely been burned enough to know better.
You're still an optimist, but you also are a realist.

Independence:

Your independence is medium.
In relationships, you need both "me time" and "we time".
You usually find it easy to be part of a couple.
But occasionally you start to feel a little smothered.

http://www.blogthings.com/thefivevariablelovetest/

Plato

Rhetoric is the art of ruling the minds of men.

Question For The Readers

So tonight I was asked about super sensitivity post sex. He even joked I should blog on the topic and find out what my "community of people" think/know about it.

After he cums he is super sensitive to any touch. Every part of his body is ticklish or touching him anywhere sends tingles all over his body. It is to the extreme as if he might jump out of his skin just by my breath lightly caressing his skin.

Any thoughts?

September NST-Part One



He invited me over for a glass of wine and I foolishly agreed. I did enjoy his company when he was brave enough to lower his guard and let me in just a little.

Seeing the familiar fatigues draped over the back of the chair, I closed my eyes and inhaled a deep breath. I thought I had put him out of my mind, I thought I had rid him from my thoughts but he slowly crept back in without my permission.

Needing just a second more so I could steady my nerves, I kept my eyes closed. As I breathed in and out his smell filled my nostrils creating a flash of images to scroll past. Memories of falling out of his bed, laughing as I looked into his brown eyes, wanting to touch the scar above his brow consumed me.

Feeling his breath on my ear, I leaned back into him. Through my dress pants I could feel his semi hard cock on my butt cheeks, I knew right then I was in trouble.

I forced my brain to tell my eyes to open and make my feet take a few steps forward. In doing so GI-Joe’s hands slid down the length of my arms and fell to his sides. Spinning on his heel as he casually threw over his shoulder, “How about that glass of wine?” acting as if he was completely unaffected by my presences.

“Umm…Sure, but I can only stay a few minutes then I need to get home.” I watched as he methodically took out the two wine glasses and rinsed them under the running water. He then tore off two paper towels and dried each glass thoroughly before setting it back on to the counter.

He selected a bottle of red wine from several sitting neatly in the wine caddy. He popped the cork out and tilted the wine glass to a slight angel. The crimson liquid flowed into the glass smoothly then he handed me one and poured the other.

I raised the glass to take a sip and paused to look at him, I mean really look at him. My mind was reeling with what I should do and what I wanted to do. My mind was made up; my clothes were staying on this time! I was here as a friend saying hello and enjoying a glass of wine that is it.

“What do you think?” He asked looking right at me.

“I’m sorry what?” Staring at him dumbfounded or spellbound, I have not decided which. “About the wine, do you like it?”

“Oh, yes it is quite nice.” Swirling the last little bit in the bottom of the glass, I took the final sip. Before I could even put the glass down on the counter GI-Joe snatched it from my hand and placed it on the counter. He stepped forward grabbing me around the waist and then his lips were on mine.

The heady scent of the wine exchanged back and forth, as our tongues mingled together. I barley felt myself taking backward steps until my back was firmly pushed into the wall. He raised my wrists above my head and ripped my blouse open.

Hearing the buttons hit the tiled floor as he leaned down to devour my breasts, my mind was screaming stop, but my body did not want to listen.

To Be Continued……

Dominate Me

Having been told by more than one person I am a lot to handle; I need to find a man that can “handle” me. I need a man that knows how to take charge.

Let me clarify…Take charge in the bedroom.

I want a man that will initiate sex. One that wants me so damn bad he can barely make it past the front door before he is ripping my clothes off. Someone who will fling me on to the bed and come take what he wants. I want a man that can be forceful but also tender and loving.

Recently I have found myself selecting men whom are in positions of authority with the hope I will find someone that has more of that “authoritative dominate” personality. The biggest issue for me though is finding a man that understands the differences between being dominating in a good way and controlling and cruel.

I have always been a very strong person in character and in personality, partly because I had to be and partly because it is just who I am. While I want to be dominated it does not mean I shouldn't have an opinion. It is a delicate balance between bending and breaking, between willful and ordering, between taking no and being a doormat.

So……DO YOU EXSIT?

Dating Facts

Since I never dated much prior to marring I am extremely rusty. Well honestly I have no idea what I am doing. I am a firm believer in being knowledgeable and prepared can put you ahead of the game, so I compiled a few dating facts from various sources. Maybe my dating life will get a little better, or at least I can hope.


1.The third week in September is National Singles Week in the U.S. (Over 50% of all singles in America have not had a date in more than two years.)

2.According to the U.S. census, there are 95.9 million unmarried people in the U.S. of which 47% are men and 53% are women.

3.Ninety-two percent of single parents would rather date other single parents.

4.Researchers at the University of Chicago found that people were twice as likely to find a date through friends and family as through the bar scene.

5.Studies show that schools, colleges, coffee shops, and malls are all excellent places to flirt because people are more open to meeting others in these places. Poor locations are restaurants and movie theaters.

6.If a man can’t decide what to wear on a date, he might want to wear blue. Studies show that women are attracted to men in blue. (I am partial to stripes *wink*)

7.If you want to create an instant link with a date, say his or her name at least twice in the conversation. This shows attentiveness and connectiveness.

8.Mirroring, or repeating someone’s body language, often impresses a date because it subtly conveys interest to the other person. (One should avoid copying every move.)

9.Studies show that remembering bits of information about a person and working them into conversations not only is highly flattering but also shows interest.

10.Choosing exciting places for a first date increases the chances of the other person falling for you. There is a definitive link between danger and physical/romantic attraction. (Italian food is one of the most popular restaurants for a first date.)

11.A woman can increase the likelihood of a man approaching her if she uncrosses her arms, makes subtle eye contact, and smiles.

12.Worst places to go on first date include fast-food restaurants, your kids’ birthday party or school play, your parents’ house, strip clubs, X-rated films or swingers parties, a party where your ex will be, church activities, or window shopping.

13.Studies show that men are put off by groups of loud women. If a woman wants to get a date, she should break away from a loud group to give a man a chance to approach her.

14.On average, daters will kiss on the second date. (If the date went well I would like a kiss at the end of the first date. I want to feel that invisible tug behind my belly button. No invisible tug=no second date.)

15.When a man first approaches a woman, she will base 55% of her initial impression of him on his appearance and body language, 38% on his style of speaking, and 7% on what he actually says.

16.If a woman is interested in her date, she will often smile at his jokes, play with her hair, fidget with an object such as a glass, blush when he pays her a compliment, pout or pucker her mouth, stumble over words, or lean in towards him.

17.Humans like mystery and “the chase,” so don't be too “available” to a date. Dating experts typically suggest not sleeping too early with a date because the longer the chase, the more likely love will blossom. (Twenty-nine percent of Americans have had sex on the first date.)

18.Dating specialists suggest that if a woman does not return a call after two messages, she is not interested. (Did not find a standard rule of thumb for a guy. Anyone want to leave a comment as to their rule of thumb?)

19.Five types of women that men tend to avoid are serial flirters, someone who talks about marriage too soon, clingy women, the party-girl, and a woman who talks too much or is drama queen.

20.Four common date blunders include showing up late, talking about yourself too much, revealing too much about your ex, and an obvious over-eagerness.


Information and facts are complied from various websites and research.